Tribe - I overslept this morning.
Not by minutes. By HOURS.
The kind of sleep where you wake up disoriented, sun already high, phone full of pings, & for a second you wonder if you missed something important.
Then you realize: your body knew exactly what it was doing. ☕
An Ode to Oversleeping
For 33 years in uniform, oversleeping was a sin.
PT formation didn’t care how tired you were. Combat didn’t care. Battle rhythm didn’t care. You set your alarm, you beat your alarm, you DROVE ON.
That training built me. & it almost killed me.
Four times.
Because somewhere along the way, “drive on” became “ignore the signal.” The body whispers, then it speaks, then it screams. & if you’ve trained yourself to never listen, the scream is the first thing you hear.
So this morning, when I woke up late & the guilt reflex kicked in, I caught it. Held it up to the light. Asked it the question I keep learning to ask:
Whose voice is that? & is it telling the truth?
The truth is, this body just carried me through two of the bumpiest weeks of my life. The truth is, sleep is the foundation under everything I teach in the book. The truth is, an Ode to Oversleeping might be the most strategic thing I’ve written all year.
Rest is not the opposite of the mission. Rest IS the mission, on the days the mission requires it. 🪖
The Tribe Showed Up. 🙏
Two weeks ago, Set Your Table went live on Amazon.
I had no idea what would happen. You hope. You pray. You publish anyway.
You showed up.
You bought it. You shared it. You posted it. You sent screenshots of your Kindle at 2am. You wrote reviews that made me sit down hard in my chair & re-read them three times.
To everyone who ordered. To everyone who reviewed. To everyone who DM’d a buddy & said “you need this one.” To everyone who told a story about their own Freedom Gap & how the book met them in it.
THANK YOU. From the bottom of an oversleeping, grateful heart. ❤️
This launch is not mine. It’s ours. Always has been.
The $0.99 Sale: Extended. 📚
Here’s the news.
I was going to let the launch pricing end this week. The tribe asked me not to.
So the Kindle edition stays at $0.99 for at least one more week.
Because the goal was never the bestseller list. The goal was getting this in the hands of the person who needs it. The veteran in transition. The exec running on fumes. The parent who feels invisible in their own life. The leader who knows their table is set by everyone else but them.
If that’s you; or if you know that person; this is the week.
📖 https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0GX3733HQ
& if you’ve read it & it landed, an Amazon review is the kindest thing you can do. Three sentences. That’s all. Reviews are how the algorithm decides who finds this book next.
Some Tripp Lanier time. 🎧
For those who don’t know him; Tripp coaches successful men who refuse to settle. Author of This Book Will Make You Dangerous. The kind of voice that finds you exactly when the noise is loudest.
He says something I keep coming back to:
“You are not behind. You are not late. You are exactly where the work meets you.”
Read that twice.
I sat with it through the bumpy week. Through the launch noise. Through the overslept morning. Through the worry that I should be doing MORE, doing it FASTER, doing it BETTER.
Tripp’s not letting me off the hook. He’s calling me back ON to it. Onto the work as it actually is. Not the work I imagined when I was 25 & invincible. The work in front of me today, with the body I have today, on the morning my body chose to sleep in.
That’s the work. That’s the only work. 🛠️
H.R. McMaster on the Hard Roads. 🏛️
You know the name. GEN(R) H.R. McMaster. Dereliction of Duty. Battlegrounds. Former National Security Advisor. Commander of the 3rd Armored Cavalry Regiment in Mosul in 2005; back when I was Chief of Operations & he was holding a city together with grit & relentless intellectual honesty.
He writes in Battlegrounds:
“Strategic empathy demands the courage to see the world as it is, not as we wish it to be.”
That line is the difference between the leaders who survive the hard roads & the ones who don’t.
You can’t outwork denial. You can’t outrun a reality you refuse to see. You can’t strategize your way around a body that needs sleep, a relationship that needs presence, a calling that needs you to show up as yourself.
McMaster taught me, by example more than words, that the strongest commanders are the ones who can hold the hardest truths without flinching. & then act anyway. 🎯
Tripp says: meet the work where it is.
McMaster says: meet the world where it is.
The Set Your Table framework says: start with the table you actually have, not the one you wish you had.
Same lesson. Three voices. One mission.
The Tough Weeks Are the Tuition. 💪
Here’s what I want you to take with you this week.
The tough times are not the interruption to the mission. They ARE the mission.
The bumpy stretches are where the framework gets tested. Where the foundations get proven. Where you find out if the table you set will actually hold the weight of real life.
If you’re in one of those stretches right now; if the body’s tired, the heart’s heavy, the road’s bumpier than you signed up for; you are not behind.
You are exactly where the work meets you.
Sleep when you need to. 😴 Wake when you can. ☀️ Set your table. 🍽️ Then sit down at it. 🪑
📖 Get the book at $0.99 (extended one more week): https://www.amazon.com/dp/B0GX3733HQ
📝 Free Starter Workbook: https://setyourtable.kit.com
Stay in the fight. Set your table. 🪖 ~ Brian
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